When I first heard that your life is a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs I didn’t want to believe it. But when I looked around and really thought about it, it made sense. We might say that we believe we deserve it all, but, if deep down there are stories in our heads that don’t align with the belief, then we don’t fully believe it. And if we don’t really believe something is possible for us, it probably isn’t.
It shows up in our relationships, in our work, everywhere. If you don’t believe you’re worthy of true love, you’re likely to find someone that doesn’t believe you are either, or that doesn’t believe they are… it can show up in all different ways. If you’re a business owner and you don’t feel your work is worth what you charge, you’ll probably have a hard time finding people that want to hire you. That’s something I’ve struggled with over the years. I had friends charging 2 or 3x what I was charging that told me I’m crazy to charge so little. But they believed their work was worth it, and they made a lot more money than me! It took me longer to believe it. And once I did, I noticed a big shift in the people that hired me and the responses I received after they viewed their galleries.
Some people thought I was crazy when I decided to start my own business. My father started his own business from nothing, so I probably always believed it was possible for me. At the same time I also created other stories about money and working hard… I’ve had to work through to keep moving forward.
Growing up we all create stories in our minds based on things we see or what people tell us, and most of the time they aren’t true. How many of you thought you were stupid or hated how you looked because of comments some random kids in elementary school made? My daughter recently asked me if her father and I had another kid because she wasn’t good enough?! Thank goodness she asked me and didn’t just continue to think that was true. We all create these beliefs that can stay with us into adulthood and we often don’t even realize it.
I believe the first step in creating a life you love is to start noticing your thoughts and then start asking yourself if they’re really true. It takes a lot of repetition and self awareness. You’ll slowly start to notice when you can change a negative thought to more positive one and that will eventually start to change things around you.
There is no one that can stop us from living the life we want but ourselves!
January 14, 2021